What makes a man a gentleman – TGJ.01

“A gentleman is someone who does not what he wants to do, but what he should do.”

(Haruki Murakami – Norwegian Wood)

Trends come and go, as do friends and lovers, but one thing that never goes out of fashion is a Gentleman. Not the play-boy, new wave ‘Gentlemen’ that so many perceive themselves to be, but rather a real true Gentlemen with all the characteristics and accompanying imagery of the protagonist of a Victorian novel.

An ever elusive term in and of itself, there is no one definition, and in all honesty, we’d be lying if we didn’t admit that it’s pretty subjective, but here we have come up with our list of what we believe are the 20 things that make a man a Gentleman…

1. A Gentleman never tells
2. A Gentleman knows that anything worth having, is worth working hard for
3. A Gentleman knows how to dance…at least a little bit
4. Every woman comes with baggage, a Gentleman helps her to unpack it
5. A Gentleman always RSVP’s
6. A Gentleman knows the difference between confidence and arrogance
7. A Gentleman is open-minded, but firm in his beliefs
8. A Gentleman is proof that chivalry is not dead
9. A Gentleman ruins his lovers lipstick, not her mascara – the only tears he should make her cry are that of joy
10. A Gentleman never lies to a woman, unless it is to surprise her
11. A Gentleman always makes the first move
12. A Gentleman means what he says, and says what he means
13. For a Lady, a Gentleman will always offer his seat and open a door
14. A Gentleman never judges
15. A Gentleman is always well presented, regardless of company, situation or occasion
16. A Gentleman has a firm handshake and always makes eye contact
17. For a Lady, a Gentleman will always offer his coat
18. A Gentleman knows how to cook at least one good meal
19. Regardless of motives, a Gentleman always walks a woman home
20. A Gentleman always offers to pay

By Holly Macnaghten Twitter @HollyMacnaghten

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